Not too long ago Scott and I had our first adoptive parents meeting at LDS Family Services. I was surprised by how much information they were able to provide in such a short amount of time. And I was more than excited to get the process started.
HOWEVER...this process is going to take a LONG time. We have our paperwork and it reminds me of getting ready for the mission. We have all kinds of forms to fill out, background checks, interviews, etc etc etc. We also need to come up with the fees as well, which at times feels harder than it should be. Even after the paperwork process and all of that, there is the waiting factor - hoping to be chosen out of the thousands of hopeful adoptive parents.
The social worker gave us some really great advice: GET THE WORD OUT. Sometimes the best adoptions come from someone that you know that knows someone else looking to place their baby with a family. That is the purpose of this blog entry.
If you have known Scott and I over the past 4 years of our marriage, you have known that we've been trying to have children since the beginning. I've known since I was quite young that I would adopt children someday. When I was 16, my doctor told me I would have a very small chance of ever conceiving my own children, due to the fact that I have some genetic issues. That only sparked my desire to adopt even more. With each passing day/month/year that desire gets stronger and stronger.
I've watched everyone around me have children - my best friends, my sister, people in my ward, and then some. Although I am SO incredibly happy for them, it is so hard for me to not feel that jealousy that inevitably comes along with the joy I feel for them. As I get older, I start to fear that I will never be the mom I so much want to be.
Scott is the most amazing man I have ever known, and I know he will be an incredible father. It is absolutely heart breaking to know that I probably can't provide him with children of our own. I am so happy, though, that he is 100% on board with adopting. He is just as excited as I am to one day bring a beautiful baby into our home and raise him/her with as much love as humanly possible.
So I pose this question to anyone and everyone that might possibly know someone that is looking to place their child up for adoption. PLEASE CONSIDER US! If you meet someone or hear of someone looking for a loving couple to place their baby with, I just hope that we will cross your mind. That is the best thing anyone reading this blog could do!
I am thankful to have the wonderful friends and family I do in my life. And most of all, I am thankful to have the world's best husband! I hope that someday our dreams can all come true!
Friday, April 23, 2010
Adoption
Posted by Scott and Alison
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4 comments:
Good luck! You will be an awesome mom. I've never met Scott but what I know seems amazing. :)
My dear Ali,
I love your entry about adoption. I know that heartbreaking feeling when everyone around you is having a baby and that torturous desparing feeling when just another test is negative. Corby and I were just getting the fees and such gathered when we found out that we are going to have a baby. I never thought it would be possible because of my having seizures and the recent surgery on my heart, I am living proof of the miracle that God provides.often times when the pressure is off that when God intervens. I don't know of anyone who is looking to find adoptive parents but if I do I will certainly let you know.
Best of luck my friend
with love,
Adri
It's never easy to want something so bad and everyone around you gets what you want. I promise you that your day of waiting will be payed off with the most amazing blessing EVER. I will totally keep you two in mind. I will let everyone know. We found out the more people that knew we wanted to adopt the better. Because someone of someone's friends cousins dog LOL will know someone. And everyone that I talk to has a cute story of how there kids came to be. One thing to remember...keep doing your everyday stuff, keep busy cause the waiting stuff is not fun. I'm so excitied for you two, it will all be worth everything one day. GOOD LUCK and if there is anything I can help do please let me know.
ali, i know you and scott are going to have kids some day. one way or another, it will happen. because you guys are amazing and deserve the best. i am so excited about all the roads you have chosen to make it happen. loves.
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